How to Spot a Lair in the Workplace

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Whilst in conversation with someone at work, have you ever had a feeling that they are not being truthful? For example, you may have been discussing the approach to take with a new project that seems obvious but they may be resisting without being clear on their view point.

Here are four key aspects of body language you can look out for when interacting with a potential liar amongst your work colleagues:

 

1. Hostility

If someone talks with their fist clenched it is a sign of anger or hostility.

2. Nervousness

If you encounter somebody who taps or drums their fingers on a surface, they are showing feelings of nervousness or anxiety.

3. Disagreement

Arms crossed across the chest is a display of defense and protection from an outside source, or may simply indicate that they disagree with what is being said.

4. Not Interested

Of course body language can also let you know if someone is not interested in what you are saying. A hard look or glare can signal louder than actual words.

Can you detect a liar in the workplace?

Body language can help you detect lies! You don’t need to launch a full scale investigation to determine if somebody is being dishonest with you. All you need is some basic understanding in the art of body language to spot someone who is not being honest with you. The simplest way to detect lies is to simply look for signs of discomfort, anxiety, and nervousness.

The inability to look directly into your eyes, fidgeting fingers, shuffling feet, sudden crossing of the arms or legs, glancing around the room, and forced smiles are the most common
clues that someone is lying to you.

Often the volume of a persons voice will become softer than usual when lying, but during a defensive state of mind, they will usually raise their voice. You may also notice speech errors, such as mispronunciation, stuttering, stammering or that they talk faster than normal.

Now, I don’t want to you get paranoid that everyone is lying to you just because they don’t look at you or because they happen to cross their arms when you are talking to them.

The meanings and interpretations of body language are not always true and definitive. Body language involves many gestures and movements that all have to be considered when you are
attempting to interpret your work peers inner thoughts.

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The Significance of Eye Contact

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Do you struggle to remember the names of so many individuals with whom you come in contact on a daily basis.  Some executives study remember-that-name books and those techniques do work occasionally.

What is their goal?  These leaders want their associates to know that although each is maintaining a fast pace, they are cared for, held in esteem, and are worthy.

Can one can accomplish the same connection without the pressure to remember names, but instead with the pleasure of sincere eye contact?

In First Impressions, What You Don’t Know About How Others See You, authors Ann Demarais, Ph.D. and Valerie White, Ph.D. describe visual connections like this:

Eye contact is a clear indication of interest, especially in American culture.  We normally look others in the eye most of the time we are talking to them.  The rest of the time we may be looking at their mouths, other parts of their faces, or briefly away. If you know your own eye-contact pattern, you are in a position to control the messages you want to send.  If you want to show interest, you can hold your gaze longer, even just a fraction of a second longer than normal.  Most people are very aware of being looked at and will feel this small difference—getting the message that you like them or find them appealing.

I know from my years of teaching networking workshops, that the main reason you might forget names is that you are distracted by what you are going to say to this person, thus focusing on yourself rather than the individual with whom you are speaking.  It would be so simple to just change your focus to them!

A small percentage of communication takes place via the words you speak.The balance of non-verbal communication lies in bodily movement and that includes your visual connection.  According to Demarais and White, it only takes four seconds to make a first impression.  In the first few moments of a conversation, what do you think would be most effective – looking the individual directly in his eye or mumbling about your inability and sorrow over forgetting his name?

This week, release your inner pressure to remember names.  Focus instead on a deeper form of recognition and communication that you care — look deeply into the artwork of each individual’s eyes. You can reap rich rewards for both you and the person who’s name you cannot remember by know how this simple eye contact technique affects him.  Enjoy your discoveries and have a grand week.

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Article Author: Ann Golden

Ann Golden Eglé, Master Certified Coach and President of Golden Visions Success Coaching can be reached at 541-385-8887 or http://www.GVSuccess.com
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4 Acts of Business Body Language

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Business body language and business networking run parallels as they both occur at the same time. When you are out at networking events and generating leads or contacts, there is a language being spoken that is nonverbal.

Just as if you were visiting another country and had to communicate with different people who spoke another language, it is important to speak and understand the language of the body. This has the obvious benefits of better communication which can lead to a number of favorable things.

Business body language, just like social body language, has its subtleties and can’t be completely depended upon. However, taking note of certain movements and behaviors can help you in your networking experiences.

We all like to be as prepared as we can for important situations. Knowing what certain positions and movements mean gives us superior understanding and is all part of adequate preparation. Below, are a few body language aspects to take note of and use to your advantage;

Raised Eyebrows

Sometimes people are not as vocal in expressing their inner feelings as you would like them to be. Raised eyebrows is a sign of interest. If you are engaged in a business networking conversation and explaining something, raised eyebrows indicate that your conversation partner has an interest in what you’re saying. Don’t be fooled by the lack of words.

Partially Facing You

Typically, we usually face the direction of our intentions. In other words, when we are engaged in a conversation and are ready to leave in a rush, our bodies will usually start to face towards the door. If this is happening while you are engaged in a conversation, don’t take it personal, the person may have an appointment to get to. To your advantage, make the conversation brief and set up a time to talk later.

Leaning Forward into You

Just as with the raised eyebrows, people have a way of showing interest without talking. When an individual is interested in something, they will lean towards it. We can be very predictable at times and leaning towards an object or person is a clue to take note of. However, pay attention to all of the surrounding factors.

Not Making Eye Contact

You may even see a minor pattern at this point. Typically, when people are interested in something they will face it, or lean towards it.

Not making eye contact can be compared to not being faced. There may be a lack of interest or even a shyness involved. You will have to make your own assertion in this situation. It will be to your advantage to observe this and take the appropriate action to get the results you want.

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